Sex Tips. Temperature Play

Looking for sex tips to spice things up? There are many ways to do this, but one method that many couples are unfamiliar with is to include hot and cold play in the bedroom. Changing the temperature can awaken nerve endings and the circulatory system, bringing pleasure to the hearts and minds of both partners. The following examples, along with safe tips for maintaining vaginal and penile health, can help couples navigate this exciting new world of sensual play.

A glass of water

Keeping a glass of warm water (not hot!) by the bed that will enhance his oral sex pleasure. The partner can take a sip, swallow it, then take another sip, hold the warm water in his mouth, and then take the man’s penis inside. Swishing the water around the penis for a few moments and then swallowing it will give him a tantalizing experience.

Breathing Game

Warm, moist breath is one of the body’s most pleasurable sources of heat, and harnessing this natural heat during foreplay and sex can bring thrilling waves of enjoyment to both partners. Exhale gently over your lover’s sensitive spots, including the abdomen, neck and ears. Gentle breathing on the clitoris and testicles is also encouraged.

Candle Wax

Most people have heard of hot candle wax being dripped on the skin as part of sexual play, and many find it terrifying. With good reason – most people don’t want to actually burn their skin. The trick to safely engaging in wax play is to use candles made from soy, which don’t require as much heat to melt as candles made from beeswax or regular wax, so they’re less likely to provide too much heat. Of course, this method should also be avoided if the skin is very sensitive to heat.

Chilled spoons

Chill a metal spoon in an ice bowl or cold water, then apply the back of the spoon to your lover’s neck, nipples, stomach, etc.

Plain old ice

Ice in your hand can do wonders. Trace a line that runs from one side of your lover’s neck to the side of his or her leg, they go from the inside of the leg, from the inside of the other side, and back to the other side of his or her body. It is best to avoid the penis and testicles.

Popsicle/hot towel

This is a more hardcore form of temperature play and should be approached with caution. The idea is for the man to masturbate with a warm, moist towel around his member while the woman masturbates with a cold dildo He then enters her, and the change in sensation between the two is out of this world.

There are several options for chilled dildos. Some glass and metal realistic dildos are chillable, but be careful. Glass that gets very cold and then goes through a sudden temperature change, such as inside the body, may break – yikes! And cold metal may stick to the lady’s warm, wet inside – not good either. Use proper precautions. Keep the glass or metal a little warmer; use lubricant; use condoms; and always, always follow the package directions.

Blindfolded Cloths

Any of the above techniques can be combined with each other, and all of them may be more enjoyable when blindfolded. This will leave lovers expectant, eager and unaware of the sensations to come. Visual deprivation may be most exciting when couples combine one form of hot play (such as candle wax) with one form of cold play (such as ice or a cold spoon).

Stay safe

Always check to make sure your skin has not been burned or lost sensation from being too cold or too hot. Do not freeze or heat toys that are not designed to withstand such temperatures. Ease into the temperature game and learn what temperatures your skin can withstand.

Keeping the skin on your sex organ healthy can’t be overlooked; a person’s ability to feel pleasure depends on it. Men can go the extra mile in penis care by using a quality penis health cream (health experts recommend Man1 Man Oil) daily. Shea butter and vitamin E keep the skin moist and protect it from the friction of intense sex. Give your sex life some excitement with temperature play and give your man some love with penis health cream.